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Wendy Kennar's avatar

Love this! Thank you for sharing. I definitely need the reminder regarding self-care and the many benefits of regular self-care, so thank you.

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Jiling Lin, LAc's avatar

I would love to hear more about how you structure your writing accountability worksheet!

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Melanie Sue Hicks's avatar

This resonated so much with me. I am also a morning person so I also kinda love DLST. That early dawn is the best. Also, and more important, I need Sundays like this or my whole week feels shifted toward stress. I have been better, but not perfect, at this since my divorce. Something about facing life head on and not running from it with a bottle of Sunday wine. Anyhoo...a writing accountability sheet? How do I learn more about this? I need it in my life.

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Heather Waugh's avatar

This is important to hear but hard to follow! I'm glad you had an invincible Monday and a great self-care weekend. I also want to know more about this writing accountability sheet.

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Rhiannon D'Averc's avatar

Yes, yes, yes. Every six months or so I go through this cycle:

- working nicely, everything is ticking along

- Life Event happens. Maybe something big, maybe just a couple of weeks of the flu. Get behind on work

- Feel like an ostrich about the looming stress, get even further behind on work

- Start working 7 days a week 'just until I can get caught up'

- Neglect basic self-care and sleep

- Get even further behind because now I can't think properly because of the stress and tiredness

- Enforced day off, usually due to an injury or an illness or a birthday trip that was scheduled months ago when everything seemed possible; worry and stress the whole time about the fact I am not working

- Suddenly work better the next day

- Say 'oh yeah' and start taking 2 days off a week again and doing self-care and taking time to rest

- Magically get caught up with work

- Working nicely, everything is ticking along...

If only I could make my brain cut out that bit in the middle before the enforced day off so I could reach 'oh yeah' a lot faster, I'd be onto something.

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Amy Makechnie's avatar

Thank you, Kate! 100%!

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Cheryl Coate's avatar

Absolute truth to this but giving yourself permission to take care of your physical and mental wellbeing is one of the most difficult things to do! I recently retired from my day job and I have struggled with giving myself permission to "just be" for quite some time! One day at a time continues to be my mantra! Thank you!

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Jenna Vandenberg's avatar

Perfect graphic, lol

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Susan Setteducato's avatar

Ihen the clocks turn back, itfeel like 'real time' to me. The early dark inspires me, as do the winter constellations. And yes, getting the nagging stuff done so it isn't hanging over my head like that old sword makes it easier to focus on the work. But the biggie, which you touched on, is sleep. Night's good nurse, I think Shakespeare called it, and I agree. Your post made me happy!

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Beth Lapides's avatar

Love this. My word of the year was organize. Reluctantly so. And it has been better for my writing than I even could have imagined

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Kara Norman's avatar

Yeeeeeeeeeees. "the key to productivity might not be working harder at all. It might be self-care and rest." I love all of this and secretly love my chores. I mean, not really, but they keep me tethered to the earth when my soul would fly off into the "I'm failing at life!! I'm a terrible writer!" ether. Also, re: long power bursts of sleep, last night my nine-year-old turned out my lights because both parents fell asleep while reading. Poor kid, haha, basically putting her parents to bed. Your hot yoga joy was my joy. Thank you for sharing! Good luck out there.

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Deborah L Williams's avatar

If your kid knows enough to turn out the lights when you've fallen asleep... then you're doing a kickass job. Awesome.

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Kathleen Clare Waller's avatar

Why do people hate us? On top of dark afternoons, I also love winter. Embrace the changes, I say. The changes make good writing!

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Katie Kulla's avatar

Oh yes I know this feeling. That amazing feeling of FINALLY tackling the nagging projects. Every time, I think, "why do I let tasks get to this point of nagging-ness?" It really drags my energy down so very much! But. Life is complicated and usually I am doing OTHER important things in place of the nagging things. Sigh!

P.S. My favorite writer joke:

What do you get when you cross a writer and a deadline? ...

A very clean house!

(100% me!)

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Erin Bowman's avatar

Love this. Thank you for the reminder. 🖤

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Amelia Wilson's avatar

Oh, it's so true! Having a list in my head of chores/admin that needs to be done entirely prevents clear-thinking and good writing! The power of a good night's sleep is also not to be understated: if I don't get a good sleep, I don't want to do the chores, then the writing suffers, and so it goes...

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Sarah Chauncey's avatar

This is my jam! I always tell editing/coaching clients that it’s not 100% about BICHOK; it’s also about what we do before we sit down to write. And in between sessions. And taking deliberate look-away or percolation time. I wasn’t sure this would ever get traction, so I’m excited to see you mention it!

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